Adultfriendfinder is a scam. I received letters as a Standard member from women who wanted to meet outside of the site since they were in the same area. At first I sent letters back and forward never noticing what was right in front of my eyes. The members were supposedly fellow Standard Members, not Silver or Gold Members. They were able, which I had and until that time with them never been able to do, send letters at will. Still slow, I'm thinking maybe they've changed their policy on this site, so I try sending letters to other members that peaked my interest. Each time I attempted to send a letter I got the upgrade page asking for money to contact other members. I wrote a letter to the site administrators asking, "How is it that certain so-called Standard Members(and I included the usernames of the ones doing it) can email at will any other Standard Member? Why does one woman's picture appear on three different profiles from three different states? Why did these women show so much interest in me, since I had never tried to contact them before that, and indeed had not visited the site for over two years?(At one point it got so crazy I was getting virtual kisses, spanks, hugs and suggestive notes from women who when I requested they be on my friend's list, they said they only looked for certain friends. How wierd is that when it was they who kept contacting me continually?) And after showing so much interest why did they suddenly just stop emailing me? My answer to that one is because I didn't completely swallow the bait and upgrade as they had intended I do. I told them in the letter that I thought their site was a scam and they were swindlers and should be reported. Their response to my letter? Silence. I have since asked that my profile be removed, completely deleted. I do not know if they have done so. Based on other reports my picture is probably still floating around on some strange profile.